Living in the Space Between
I have always been someone who likes to stay open to different perspectives and although I hold strong views about certain values that I have. I try to remind myself that I do not have all the answers and I could not be more grateful for that. A major part of my sobriety is surrendering to a power bigger than myself, and it brings me a great deal of relief to know that I am NOT totally running the show.
As I settle back into life in Canada, I find myself feeling incredibly grateful for the experiences that I have had but also for the diversity that surrounds me here. My husband and I have had many a disagreement based on cultural differences and the environments we grew up in. He was one of the first people to remind me when I was telling him to "be more open-minded", I was actually being a tad bit hypocritical telling him to do that when I was not staying open to his opposing views. Coming back to North America in a time where there is a lot of dualistic thinking that pits 'me' against 'you' and 'us' against 'them' does not leave much room for any middle ground. We as human beings have many layers and even though I may not hold the same political values as someone else, we may both share a value of love and honesty in our relationships. I think it's important to stay open to the possibility that I may not agree with how others think but that does not mean that we can't find a way to live peacefully along side each other.
I know that it is also important to stand up for what you believe in and advocate for your values. I will continue to do that and encourage those around me to do so as well. If there is anything that I continue to learn in my own path of recovery, it is that we are all flawed and beautiful in our own ways. And as human beings on this earth, we are all connected with different stories, hardships, traumas, grievances and messages. I will continue to try to listen to those around me before I jump to a conclusion about them and try to compartmentalize them into a box that I either belong in or don't. We are all living in the space between, if I check in with my connection to Source, I know this. At the moment, I truly am living in between worlds, having just moved from Seoul to Ottawa but with my husband and his family still there. I am transitioning careers and reacquainting myself with Canadian life. Everyone is dealing with some type of transition and adjustment be it small or big. It reminds me to look for the similarities in them not the differences so that we can find a way to connect and get along which can go a very long way.
As I settle back into life in Canada, I find myself feeling incredibly grateful for the experiences that I have had but also for the diversity that surrounds me here. My husband and I have had many a disagreement based on cultural differences and the environments we grew up in. He was one of the first people to remind me when I was telling him to "be more open-minded", I was actually being a tad bit hypocritical telling him to do that when I was not staying open to his opposing views. Coming back to North America in a time where there is a lot of dualistic thinking that pits 'me' against 'you' and 'us' against 'them' does not leave much room for any middle ground. We as human beings have many layers and even though I may not hold the same political values as someone else, we may both share a value of love and honesty in our relationships. I think it's important to stay open to the possibility that I may not agree with how others think but that does not mean that we can't find a way to live peacefully along side each other.
I know that it is also important to stand up for what you believe in and advocate for your values. I will continue to do that and encourage those around me to do so as well. If there is anything that I continue to learn in my own path of recovery, it is that we are all flawed and beautiful in our own ways. And as human beings on this earth, we are all connected with different stories, hardships, traumas, grievances and messages. I will continue to try to listen to those around me before I jump to a conclusion about them and try to compartmentalize them into a box that I either belong in or don't. We are all living in the space between, if I check in with my connection to Source, I know this. At the moment, I truly am living in between worlds, having just moved from Seoul to Ottawa but with my husband and his family still there. I am transitioning careers and reacquainting myself with Canadian life. Everyone is dealing with some type of transition and adjustment be it small or big. It reminds me to look for the similarities in them not the differences so that we can find a way to connect and get along which can go a very long way.
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